Whether we are aware of our deeds or not, the end results are inevitable. They will be transparently apparent, without our permission nogal. Kore ke one of those ‘You like it or not, deal with me’ kinder situations. Failure to take critical heed, mostly with the not so positive acts, to such situations might lead one’s life deeper into the similar direction; However, being cognizant of the outcomes and polishing on them might heighten the blossoming in a copious manner. It is therefore to essential to live a self-monitored life, unlike living haphazardly.
The ladies and gentlemen who are in the wellness & fitness fraternity will agree with this piece, in that their industry is the most sensitive in terms of what they eat. They become extra careful in what goes into their body and the aimed results are determined by the “Strict diet” among other factor. I applaud their way of handling temptations by avoiding the most delicious, but covertly or even overtly junk, meals to the masses.
Just “You are what you eat” i reckon we are what we do. it is equally important to assess ourselves as we go on about this life journey. Well, it is encouraged already that we need to think before we act, which is a great motive to life. Additionally, i think it is also vital to run a post-obit test on what we’ve thought of before having engaged in. It might sound unnecessary, but i think a monitored life will help many of us to identify and know our strong and weak-points as individuals. It’s more like diarizing the weekly activities. This ensures not only that you never get forget what’s due to you, but also for record keeping. Next-time you see someone with a journal, be inspired and stop thinking kuthi they think they’re better. Possibly, if we had to jot down our activities and their results, i can put my head on the block to predict that it was unlikely for us to repeat the same mistakes in life.
In as much as it is important for us to introspect for the future sake, the same technique will add value to our lives if we do it being honest to the inner soul. The resting moment of the day, which is lying the head on the pillow to go for sleep/rest is, hypothetically, the moment of intra-personal communication. It is, in most cases the moment of truth if the subconscious and conscious self is drawn together to facing reality with the mission of being a better being come the start of the new moon. Here is how we can Assess ourselves:
- Think of yourself without other people in mind
As we get and filter external motivation, we should not forget that we have the capability to motivate ourselves. How is can this be achieved? Do not get this wrong and confuse it with Pride, for pride is a sin. As we apply self-motivation let’s enjoin the self not start bragging aloud about the accolades and seek credit externally. Batho ba rata attention watseba mara. Let’s not start preaching about our achievements to other people, actions will speak volumes and we will be accredited where due. However, do not expect people to give you any credit. If it is not given, then we know that we have silently gave ourselves a pad. Expectations are dangerous to oneself.
OK, it is quiet simple to restore self-motivation. First things first: Reflect on who you are and where you from. Travel back the journey that brought you to where you are now. Check every little thing, be it bitter, sour and sweet that you have withstood. Think of the ethical risks you took in order to earn your spot. Dammit, you are a hard worker. You have championed storms, you have emerged victorious in hopeless situations. You made it on your own without cutting corners. Your story can motivate millions of hopeless aspiring souls out-there. Yes there is someone out-there who believe that it is impossible to breakthrough when one is embedded in certain situation. It is until they hear how you made it that will restore their hopes.
We go around looking and digging for motivations. It is good to get external motivations. On another dimension, it is important to be heedful of the fact that we have intra-personal motivation curbed within us. We just need to take a reverse trip to where we once were and booom there we have it. Our yesterday are meant to inspire us today and our todays are meant to motivate our tomorrow. I mean if other people can be motivated, both directly and indirectly, by our stories, then what is impossible for us to listen to our stories and motivate ourselves. Do you ever wonder why people meditate?- to be reminded of certain things. You too need to remind yourself of who you are, where you’ve been and what you aspiring to be. It can be achieved through self-assessment.
You are a champ. You over came situations which required your to make critical decisions and you choose what seemed like the narrow jungly path. Think of it like this: Your peers took a different direction and they tried persuading you into their mirage navigated routes, but dammit you denied the “Goodies” which were temporary and accepted your situation while striving to better it. Look at you now, think of some of the tough decisions you made in rebelling to the persuasion.
2. Think of yourself and your people
Kuthiwa Umuntu ngumuntu ngabantu. Let’s just be mindful of the word “I..” as we stand tall to give a speech of achievement. We do not live in isolation. One way or the other there was and there is someone out there who contributed towards you being where you are. Yes, you might have done the dirtiest hard labor, but never forget your people. Without people you are just a vacuum for a human-being. It is through other people, who might seem absent and never doing enough at the time that we emerge victorious. These pillars of our strength need not be forgotten as we assess ourselves. Just so you thought you are boss, be reminded that you wouldn’t have made it to that interview if it wasn’t for that malome Taxi Driver.
These are people who have sacrificed for us to be where we are. Bullets have been taken for us in order to drift swiftly through to our designation. I call it “humanterian” like Sibusiso Leope would say. Nelson Mandela wouldn’t have made it to be a noble man on his own. He sure has fellow cadres, family and friends whom shielded him as he slides through his journey. Our president wouldn’t be dubbed as corrupt if he didn’t have his cronies in the high posts protecting him. Through the self-evaluation, it is important to bring to mind our people. It might seem as though we are independent and might not need them no more, be without our loyal people we ain’t nothing. Such people are an inspiration to our journey. We need to understand that they added value to our craftmanship. We shall never cease to embrace them.
It was never an easy journey, and these individuals were just present as pillars to strengthen us up Against All Odds of the journey. It is therefore worth featuring these external forces to our evaluation. Although the ultimate prize is crowned solely on us as individuals, but we must be reminded that we are together with these amazing human-beings in it. Through the hardships when we were hopeless, these individuals were there to restore our hope and faith, these individuals were present to provide what is possible. These individuals are still standing by us even after the wolves has taken off the sheep skins and we are left with dropped jaws.
It will be an unforgivable act to forget to mention this individuals (Family, Friends, Spouses, abo Bae, members of the community etc.) as we render that vote of thanks speech. It’s more like a speaker who does not acknowledge their audience as after giving a keynote address; dude what the hell? This is a sign that no matter how intelligent we may appear to be, we are nothing without the people within our circle. Do not be shy to give acknowledge your enemy or that stranger who was once rude at you. They too added value to make you a stronger individual that you are today.
3. Think and acknowledge your blunders too
Change is for those who are ready to grow. If it wasn’t for your mistakes, which i believe came as a lesson to, you would’ve long given up. I believe that we are courageous now because of the mistakes that we once got into. The mistakes are there to remind us that we have strong and weak points in life. The weak points are not meant to drag us down, while the strong points need to be polished time and again.
The importance of blunders exist to prove to us that there is no such a thing as “Perfect”. Think of how many times you have slipped and you bounced back and you soldiered on. That on it’s own shows that you have what it takes to get things done. Do you ever wonder why they ask about your weak points in the interviews? Dare you lie and say you’re a clean perfect individual, and kiss that post goodbye. It is fine to have blunder, the interest is what do they mean to you and it is without them that we wouldn’t know our point of expertise. So as we assess the self, it is important to acknowledge these blunders, embarrassing as they might be, they are worth featuring in the assessment of the self.
We must however, not confuse our flaws with all these funny staff that we get ourselves into. Remeber when you couldn’t pronounce ‘Photosynthesis’ and you became a laughing stock? Listening to you know addressing Mr Smith in the simplest comprehensive version of his mother tongue, to some extend you even go deeper into confusing him in his own terrain. That’s what i am talking about. I am talking mistakes that ignited the burning fire in us to envy and persist to thrive and master a certain thing. I mean we can’t be talking about how someone sold their soul in exchange of outfit, drinks or money a mistake; Never! Desperation doesn’t even qualify to describe such immoral, unethical, nefarious act! To me such are just results of being tempted into the visible fashion things which can be outdated in a snap of a finger. Such deeds which might be excused for blunders are for those cowards who thinks they cannot make it without getting dirty; and it is obviously because they didn’t know their Worth. Oops, you can’t reminiscence on such “Blunders” and laugh your lungs out. How do you call bending for someone in order to score grades or liquor a mistake ruri?? But hey, because you are determined to change, we welcome you the world of faith. The world of optimism. It is through your story that our future generations won’t trap their souls in regretful acts.
Reflect at your mistake and understand that you have improved; that you were always all the time a fighter. It is through acknowledging this mistakes that you’d defeat fear of the unknown. It is by accepting your mistakes that you will keep pushing and persisting towards your mission and vision. Such mistakes reminds you of your worth and never shall you settle in a pig’s dean if you are assessing yourself on the basis of the mistakes and the lessons entailed therein! It is because of this blunders that we know cherish the future.
In summation, I believe kuthi sweetness wouldn’t taste so good if it wasn’t for bitterness, peace wouldn’t feel so peaceful if it wasn’t for struggle; joy would not be so joyous if we knew nothing about pains and sadness.