Month: August 2016

Pander yourself and the rest shall adapt!

Have you ever taken a moment before you engage in an activity to introspect; “Am i really up for this? Is’t me doing this or am i pressured to do this? Are my personal morals and instincts endorse the act?

Well, with the mistakes that we as a people commit, i came to realize after some typical analysis over a joint of course, that we spend most of our time engaging in acts that the self don’t need to. But because we are governed by “How will the next person perceive me”stigma it’s somewhat a natural obligation to act. Funny enough, we are scared of people who are also scared of how we gonna perceive them; or they don’t even notice us at all- What a waste of precious time.

We miss lot of unforeseen opportunities which we have the potential and abilities to acquire simply because of “The next person”. We spend a hell lot of time masquerading our lifestyle because Bae and Achuz (Girl/boyfriend and friends) gotta be happy. We tryna be perfect before someone else’s face, which according to me is never accomplished, but we are so imperfect to the self and are thence self-deceived. We put so much effort in trying to be accepted for what we are not.

Can you imagine a lifestyle where you invest effort in yourself as a primary project on this planet, and are thus accepted for your frank acts? A lifestyle where you don’t need to prove a point in order for you to belong to a certain affiliation? I am of the believe that people get attracted to those who appreciate themselves and are not as keen to change a habit because of the next encounter. In his words, Ralph Waldo Emerson, substantiates that “It is one of the most beautiful compensations of life, that no man can sincerely try to help another without helping himself”. We will remain democratic slaves of friendship if we have the chameleon tendencies. It’s always great to have things adapting to us because we are us not for the mummery reasons.

If you are deceived by the mirage on the road, we might take U-turns and cut our mission short. Sometimes we don’t attain to our outright journey targets because we strive to succumb to luring acts of one another. It is a pertinent fact to this life that we be rejected or accepted for our authenticity.

Nxolo a hambe lo uAchuz noma uBae if she disapprove of my morals, values and principles governing oneself as a project; Otherwise we might die running other people’s errands as a way of acceptance while our own are towering!





There is no greater feeling than knowing that people recognize and acknowledge the fact that one is a “Villager”, BUT they are very careful on engaging with that very villager in their own territory. I often hear people, mostly the one’s originating in urban area, trying to intimidating the villagers; but i am, as a victim, very proud of the ruralists that know their origin enough to predominate the panel of decision making as they enforce it on the ‘Urbanians”. In essence, content is key and without any fear it will sure take one far. However, being a MINIMALIST that i am, there is no need to prove a point…but let it be spotted those who has what it takes to.

People will never accept you if you try to please them; but nature will take it’s course and you will be accepted for being authentic and doing what you need to be done. Know you; follow your trends and reflect as you are immensely accepted.

Its no vanity to walk around with a torch held high in a foreign territory where you earned the respect you never imagined.



Life is how you define it; there is no universal definition to the unlimited life styles- Lebronny

I learned about two types of persons: A minimalist and Clusterist.
Minimalist- Someone who has the needs and enjoys life.
Clusterist- Someone who has and is accumulating themselves with WANTS which in return makes life difficult.
In essence, a MINIMALIST is someone contrary to popular belief of life’s viewpoint. This is someone different to the trend driven followers. These are rare individuals whom are audacious enough to go left when the masses are heading right.

The fascinating part of their story-Minimalists, is that they are in the zone of affording the wants and/or are equally privileged as Clusterists to in-debit themselves in acquiring all the wants. But they are not tossing the cards because the casino is open…interesting species i must say. They are usually covert introverts unlike the contrary.

Because of following the already traveled tracks-Trend; Clusterists turn to forget their origins, they end-up succumbing  to the life that place their heads between a rock and a hard surface. These group of people are living according to a systemized routine of the society; Life can be whopping difficult for this individual in a blink of an eye. The thought of waking up from the hours where owning two cellphones being headlines into the days where owning 10 cellphones might be detrimental to one’s health conditions. Otherwise a minimalist might go without noticing that and remain in shape.

Life is difficult until one figures the true self, just as Joan Mills stipulated: “I’ve gone through life believing in the strength and competence of others; never in my own. Now, dazzled, i discover that my capacities are real. It’s like finding the lining of an old coat”.