“Its the choices we make in this times of our lives” sang Kathy Brown in one of my favorite tracks by The Layabouts. It is after i have looked in the mirror one morning while preparing for the day rush, that i had the song playing imaginary in my mind. I could not ignore such sparks in my mind. I had put my mind to it, and i ruminated on the thought of it. Like one lecturer in my days said; an inquisitive mind leads into a prudent life. It is through intra-questioning that we become aware of who we are among other things. My question as an outcome of that weird moment which came out of nowhere was: “What drives our choices as human-beings”?! *Sigh*
Cognizant or not, we live because we make decisions. It is an inescapable routine of this life. Although we at times choose to ignore some of them, but every step of life we take are in most cases driven by a choice. It is after a certain choice of driving, engaging into a sexual activity, smoking etc, that an accident, which might exist for a lifetime, occur as a result. Choice are a natural way going hand-in-glove with decisions that are a sign of life in human-beings. Hence we can recall about our so called “Bad and good” choices that we’ve ever made in our life. This very choices makes us wanna develop and grow into better beings or never to repeat the same mistakes. However, it is when we chose to neglect the signs of our actives cautious minds that we end-up falling into an endless dark pit of thorns.
It is by choice that we know when to set limits; it is because we are aware of the situations that we know if it is safe or risky to continue. It is all by choice that wake-up and grind. A helpless slouched man ignored the fact that he had a CHOICE so stop or say NO to alcohol at his disposal. Don’t be that man!
In the light of this concept, it is due to knowing and understanding who we really are, our mission, vision and goals in this life that we can and will make informed choices. The contrary is will result in being sorry and consoling ourselves for having taken wrong choices. It is only during our fundamental stages in this world that we are guided into doing and not certain things. Our guardians knows what is good for our upbringing and what is not. But gradually as we grow, being mindful of the wrong and the good of/to our lives, we are able to make our own decisions. In countless cases, this is the stage where we are at stake of drowning into life’s fiery pit. We turn to think that we are now in charge, we got thing under-control. Little do we know that we got shit under control. Hence many of us look back at our past missteps and shed some tears of regret.
We continue to live reckless, ratchet life and console ourselves with “YOLO”; Do we really know our worth, the gift and purpose of this life?.
You are an asset, not only to your family which is hopeful in you, but probably to the world and its socio-economic phase. Should we take heed of our worth in this word, we will might then start making astute choices. We will know where and when to draw a line. We will never be merciless about uttering “NO” to what our conscience disapprove. Knowing our worth, is understanding that it is important to treasure ourselves into the sacred box. It is never an easy task of-course, but it is worth it. We will not only be mocked by the masses on the bases of the social status quo, but we will get a feeling of being in a vacuum space; we will feel like we incarcerated ourselves at some time. But eventually, such will become a lifestyle on which we adapt to. It is only difficult to out-stand this stage because we know the other tastes of life, which is covertly junk to our lifestyle. We are aware from the onset of lifting a glass of liquor, doing it without a rubber, serial cheating etc. that we must anticipate and never be shocked when the results are what they’re ought to be! But because we “are only human” we continue to swallow only junk food and obese ourselves until such time that somethings is diagnosed and the doc recommends us to join The Biggest Loser (If you know what i mean).
We made it a primary choice to ignore our proactive state and went for the active part of it. Even though we are aware of that our deeds are totally astray, we continue to engage anyway…we continue to make that fruitless choice. We engage in such acts because there are some deceiving temporary yearnings which need to be nourished. We blindfold the ourselves against the long-term version of life- The future. Do we really know our worth? It is through archiving some pieces of art or even wine that gains them their worth. The longer they are caged, the heavier they get to worth. It is that artists or wine master’s CHOICE to keep them for a certain period, for their WORTH’s sake!
Because we are excelling in justifying our miscues, we always find some lousy words to justify our blunder yet we continue to commit the same indiscretions. This is for those who got lucky to getaway with it of course, but for those who had to live with the consequences for their lifetime is non-justifiable. Are such people who are the most honest creatures on earth in telling stories of change. It is until we personally meet an HIV/AIDS, ex-con, paralyzed among other unfortunate individuals, that we are reminded of our worth. It is until we hear a story of a remorseful adult orphan that we know what to make out of parent’s advice. But such reality does not last long, because we have the world to please and our dignity, reputation, worth and value to propel!
It is all because of the CHOICES that we make in this times of our lives; It is guided by knowing our worth and understanding what we are designated to be. It is by personal CHOICE to go to North when friends ask us to; we should not blame no one for the outcomes. We are rational about such. We ain’t toddlers who are coached because they are not aware yet. We are grown-up who are out and about. We should never blame friends for buying us fat-cakes if we lively made a choice to say YES. Just like it a gardener’s choice to see the beautiful flowers everyday, it is therefore his duty without being compelled, to water the garden.
I shall leave it here. We only know ourselves and growth will direct us into what we think we designated to be in this life.
“Every person has free choice. Free to obey or disobey the Natural Laws. Your choice determines the consequences. Nobody ever did, or ever will, escape the consequences of his choices.”- Alfred A. Montapert